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Love in a Headscarf summary Love in a Headscarf, series Love in a Headscarf, book Love in a Headscarf, pdf Love in a Headscarf, Love in a Headscarf e38b4d01f4 When Shelina Janmohamed, An Oxford Educated Muslim Living In The Bubbling Ethnic Mix Of North London, Opted For The Traditional Arranged Route To Finding A Partner, She Never Suspected It Would Be The Journey Of Her Life Through Ten Long Years Of Matchmaking Buxom Aunties, Countless Mismatches, And Outrageous Dating Disasters, Shelina Discovers About Herself And Her Faith Along The Way, She Learns That Sometimes Being True To Her Religion Means Challenging Tradition, While Readers Learn Much About Islam That May Surprise Them


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    Shelina is a thoroughly modern Muslim a British Indian Muslim Her ancestors were from India and converted to Islam and moved to Tanzania When Tanzania was granted independence from Britain, Shelina s father chose to take the offer as a British citizen to move to England Moving into that environment has caused her family to closely examine which Muslim practices are were part of their culture, and which were actually a part of Islam This was the second book I ve ever read about Muslim women, the first being Princess A True Story of Life Behind the Veil in Saudi Arabia, which could not be DIFFERENT in portrayal of the life of a Muslim woman I think this, than anything, solidified my knowledge that Islam is quite wonderful, and all of the ugly atrocities in Muslim nations come from awful cultural traditions than anything the Qu ran has ever said.Shelina wrote this book about how as a modern Muslim woman, she chose the traditional path of an arranged marriage When I read the book blurb I thought it would be crazy tales along the lines of hijinx ensue, lol While she did include quite a bit of descriptions in first person voice of her experiences which were funny, much of the rest of the writing was expository Not in a bad way I sure do not know a lot about the Muslim faith I know a little and I appreciated the explanations It seemed like those were the driest parts of the book, though What I do know about the Muslim faith was reaffirmed It is a loving, peaceful, family based religion They adhere to a high standard of strict moral conduct no drinking, immorality, immodesty, etc The sanctity of motherhood and children is tantamount and life and society should be built around the traditional family unit Listening to Shelina describe her standards, you could almost see her living in SLC and being mistaken for a Mormon although the headscarf would be a dead giveaway In fact there were so many similarities I was only left to one conclusion whether you are an American Mormon or a British Muslim, we are all children of the same loving God whether you call him Allah or Heavenly Father, he has the same standards and laws and loves us all the same There were times when the similarities were quite striking When Shelina went on her Hajj her pilgramage to their sacred Kabaa in Mecca which they call the house of their God they all dress in white to remove materialism and individuality so they all stand before Allah as equal spirits They then perform symbolic rituals Hmmmm.There was part of the book she spoke about her spiritual journey From blind obedience, to actively choosing conversion, to following the letter of the law, to following the spirit of the law, after that there was a little journey into mysticism I started feeling a little nervous about that part our LDS Mormon religion discourages delving into the mysteries of God as, most assuredly, there is much our human comprehension is not up to the task and stick to what we have been given as the path back to our Heavenly Father that after all the good works we can do we still stand sinful and must accept the Savior as our mediator through Grace to gain admittance into Heaven But the I thought about it the I saw the similarities of her journey with ours In our religion after living the spirit of the law we are most assuredly encouraged to continue on our spiritual journey one of stiriving to be like the Savior and to literally develop a personal relationship with Him This is a deeply personal and intimate spiritual journey that I could equate to that stage in her life Where she discovered LOVE God is LOVE This is a beautiful story of discovery both self discovery and spiritual discovery.I wanted to end my review with an explanation of my four star rating Is the writing such that it s artistic and destined to be a classic in the auto biographical genre No Lively and beautiful at times yes Dry and a little slow sometimes yes But there was one part of the book where she described her grandmother her angel grandmother Her grandmother who married a man of her loving father s choosing, who raised 10 faithful children of her own, and who rises every morning at 3 am for her daily prayer with Allah I felt this woman s spirituality, her closeness to God I envied it What a beautiful example This woman was geographically, religiously, and generationally apart from me and has inspired me to be a better woman A better Mormon A better Daughter of God And to be inspired in such a manner well, was rather shocking for me in a good way p.s I think Shelina and I were spirit sisters separated at birth I call myself a feminist Mormon housewife in every positive connotation of the word and well, I think we may have been cut from the same cloth A highly educated, faithful woman who defies cultural traditions to climb Mount Kilimanjaro and become one of the most influential Muslim women in British society You go, girl


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    This is a memoir of a British Indian Muslim woman looking for a husband.The book started with a very juvenile style The author s Islamic reasoning was a little too simplistic like that of a teenager I actually thought the book was excerpts from Shelina s diary when she was 19.The book lacks a clear time frame All I know is that it started when Shelina was a college student, it mentioned half way through the book that the internet was still new, and it was published in 2009.Also, I only know the author was 19 at the beginning of the book, then she mentioned working, and at the end she got married.At some point, Shelina even seemed to suffer from a quarter life crisis like a 40 year old man By that, I mean that she just went ahead and bought a racing car.Disclosing her age, and the date, would have helped readers relate to her challenges.The scene with the French tourist was so petty for both sides Again, I don t know what year that happened, but I like to think that in 2013 people are enlightened, and Muslims have better reasoning skills I can only hope.I learned many new things about Indian culture from this book For example biodata I heard about it before, but I thought it was just a joke I am surprised to learn that some Indian families are deeply involved in the marriage quest of their daughters I thought only boys had that privilege since they are the seekers For over 200 pages, the author was lamenting her fate, asking questions, raising her own hopes about love and marriage, questioning herself for a very short time then quickly changing her mind and claiming firmly that no, it was not her fault that she d been single for so long.It s only on the last 10 pages that she brings up how she met the one Except she doesn t go into much details as she did with all the rejected suitors You finish the book and you don t even know how old her husband is nor what he does for a living I guess we have the right to that information now, don t we I also wonder what happened to Noreen and Sara.The very fact that the author spent most of her time and energy on sharing her misfortunes while looking for love, and then she said very little about her happiness when she finally found it, is very realistic That s how people are everywhere You ll hear all about your friends problems and misery, you ll be up to date with all their drama, but as soon as things are well, they fall off the face of the earth It s a human thing, unfortunately.I think Shelina is another woman for whom marriage is the end the culmination of her life It s as if her love quest ended with the one , whereas it s supposed to only start Since the book s title is love in a headscarf , it should rather tell the story of life with the one , not end with finding him It should answer some of all the questions Shelina asked as a single girl, not just expose her young dreams and hopes.A minor detail, but one that haunted me during the entire book Who the heck serves guests suitors or not instant coffee with condensed milk or bagged tea This was such a cultural shock for me I did NOT know you could do that Finally, I think A British Indian Muslim marriage quest in a headscarf is a appropriate title.


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    My motivation to read Love in a Headscarf was pure curiosity I tend to judge people as individuals rather than as part of a group and really had no prior knowledge of Islam before 9 11 Since that terrible day a lot of mostly negative statements have been made about Muslim belief and it seemed appropriate to listen to the voice of someone who actually lives that life.I thoroughly enjoyed this book The author s sense of humor in finding a husband created a story that entertained while also educating me about the role of women in Muslim culture I was hoping she would address the events of 9 11 and she did I wondered what drove someone to the point where they were willing to end their own life and create destruction around them What kind of macabre aspiration was that Was it pure hatred Was it an evil mind that had got hold of the means to carry out a bloodthirsty act I couldn t help but think those who committed the acts of September 11 fell into this category, although none of us would ever know the truth In my opinion, organized religion is at its best a code of ethics Despite the fact that the author was raised as a British Muslim and I am an American Jew, I feel that we belong to the same sisterhood This book was helpful to me and I hope it is widely read as rationality needs to overcome fear and distrust and I think people need to focus on what they have in common, not on how they are different.


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    One book thousand feelings. About soulmate, love, god, religion, Islam, racism. About a Muslim girl who lives in London and tries to find god, herself, her soulmate..and love Throughout the pages she discovers herself and her religion, and the meaning of patient in her research. Because searching for a husband had distracted her from exploring her own inner world.This book what I needed to understand that as a human being my focus should make my spirit blossom.One day maybe if I fell depressed about finding my soulmate or I give up about life and love I ll return to this book again.


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    Read my full review of Love In A Headscarf at theinspirationtree.wordpress.comReading about Shelina s life was a very pleasant experience She began her book by envisaging that she is telling us her story over a cup of coffee and, while reading, I actually felt like I was sitting with her in such a place, listening to her relate her story I laughed at all the right places, shook my head sadly when things got a little depressing, brooded thoughtfully over her reasoning and rejoiced when she finally met her One.What made this book even enjoyable was that was that the author and I share a similar upbringing and cultural and religious experiences I was even able to cringe when reading about her first introduction because it bought up memories of my first introduction, buried deep between memories of Horrible Hairstyles and First Days Of School As for her Six Stages Of Self Pity, I was shocked at how accurate they were my friends and I can list them off by heart Shelina s deep insight into her life and faith encouraged me to probe deeper into my own character and appropriately question my ideals as a British, Muslim woman within the confines of culture My respect for the author increased chapter by chapter we all know that it takes courage to stand up for what you believe in against what society wants you to believe This theme even extends back to the time of great Romantic authors such as Ralph Waldo Emerson and Henry David Thoreau.At the end, I came to the conclusion that I have a lot to learn about myself and about my religion, but nevertheless, I am optimistic about setting off on my own spiritual journey After I m done with discovering the world and it s hidden secrets, maybe then I can write a book about my experiences too Overall I was very pleased with the book, although at times, in particular when the discussion revolved around history or philosophy, my attentiveness to what was being said burned out somewhat I was interested in reading on and discovering how this analysis related to her life experiences and when I did so, I was not disappointed Personally, I believe that I have a lot to experience and learn before I can understand and truly appreciate the reasoning put forward in the book.Also, I did wish that the author revealed about the One when he finally made it into the story Having read about all the terrible situations she was put in with Syed Mr Cricket Lover , Mobeen Mr Practical Joker and Khalil just Khalil I can t even place a description for that guy , I was justifiably eager for details about Mr One I just felt like it was over so quickly, but since it was a very happy ending, it was still worth it.


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    This review is also published on my blog here, in my own words, is the underlying premise of Love in a Headscarf It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single, practicing, devout Muslim woman in possession of intelligence, wit, and beauty must be in want of a husband who has the same qualities As well as romance Lots of romance.The novel is an account of the author s search for the One through highly structured and family and community oriented means She also dwells a great deal on how her faith shaped her search for a partner, alongside general discussions about Islam and being Muslim in the west.One reviewer called the book interesting, but not uplifting Their review is a good way to pave way into my experience of reading the book For those single Muslim men and women who are enduring the struggle to find mates or are preparing to embark on that journey, this book is not helpful and is even rather despairing at times, although that was clearly not intended by the author The unwounded in the modern Muslim marriage plight may miss that negative tenor, but the potential emotional drag for those with real life experience in this arena may be enough to recommend passing over this book.So true For the most part, this book was depressing While I enjoyed seeing how the author s experiences with meeting prospects mirrored mine having to suffer through men who are inexcusably non punctual, who hate books and those who read them, who show up simply because their parents forced them into it, who are fixated on matters of height even if it comes down to a few inches, etc they simply reinforced my frustrations about the deeply flawed assumptions that have crept into cultural practices surrounding marriage and courtship or lack thereof in the Muslim South Asian diaspora Janmohamed does question some of these assumptions, but not at all in a way that I found satisfying or particularly illuminating.I did like reading about how the author braved the instruments of social compliance designed to keep women in line by doing things like climbing Mount Kilimanjaro and buying a racing car I appreciate the idea of her wanting to be the change she wanted to see Another really interesting point she brings up is how, in the final stages of the husband hunt, she learns to see men not just as potential suitors, but just as who they are Each person, she writes, was a delicious moment to be savoured with respect for their humanity This healthy attitude is a wonderful way to grow and learn through what can often be a dreary, heartbreaking process of finding a spouse.However, for a story that is so centred on finding deep, enduring, romantic love, I feel that the book is strangely devoid of it On the occasions the author feels a deep attraction to a prospective spouse, the rapport between them comes off as fleeting and superficial The result being even when she met someone who seemed promising, I couldn t be less indifferent about what the outcome would be There are worthy points made about capital L love, and seeking to be closer to the divine While they were important and noteworthy, they weren t particularly memorable for me This Altmuslimah review, however, is appreciative of this aspect of the book I also think the book had tangents into discussions about Islam and womanhood that seemed a bit elementary and intended for non Muslim audiences who are not familiar with Islam I could see how it was intended to frame the author s experience of being a British Asian Muslim woman who wears the hijab, but to me they were just wearisome distractions, parts to be skimmed through just so I could get back to her story of how she finally meets her husband.I suppose my not wholly enjoying this book largely has to do with my questioning whether the kind of marriage process that Janmohamed went through can always be equated to finding love As much as I want to believe that parents, imams, and a vicious team of aunties have the potential to find the one for you, the whole point of the one is that there is something that grows organically with them, a process that I can t imagine naturally occurring under the watchful eyes of community elders and inordinate pressures to get married That is why Muslim stories that are not as by the book as community leaders would like them to be honest accounts such as those in Love, InshAllah or of Muslim men s experiences with finding a partner resonate so much with me.I have great respect for Janmohamed s enacting of the changes that she wanted to see by challenging stereotypes about Muslim women However, as far as the marriage process is concerned, the changes I think are needed require something much radical, something that skirts along the edges of conventional, accepted territory It requires than a few raised eyebrows and ruffled feathers over what kind of a vehicle a woman drives to the mosque The system needs than a poke it needs a good shake It starts with an acceptance of the fact that love can take on an unlikely, unpredictable form that our social interactions and suitor screening processes need to make room for so that it may be easier for the single Muslim to fulfill half their deen, so to speak.Janmohamed s story is not every Muslim woman s story, for she is fortunate enough to exercise her agency in a close knit community she has known her whole life It is up to each of us to seriously and honestly examine our needs, contexts and values and forge a path to our future partner that works within our systems or in opposition to it.


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    this book took me on a journey, i would never have experienced anywhere else, it spoke out my unspeakable troubles, calmed my frayed nerves and most importantly it led me on a journey to find the one, the great one, Almighty Allah.i love this book a lot thanks to my friend bilkis begum for recommending it to me xx


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    I read this like 3 years ago I think It was one of the required novels for my 20th Century Literature subject I usually feel pressured when I have to read novels for my literature class, despite my love for reading Because I m the kind of person of who thinks a lot about the workload i.e assignments, quizzes, exams.and reading Every semester I have to read 5 8 novels, supposedly it was a good thing right but imagine when you have to read book that doesn t strike your interest at all But you can t DNF it because they are subject s requirement And this has somehow tainted my reading experience Well, I might be a little exaggerated It s not that bad actually I enjoyed reading numerous of required novels throughout my study haha At first, I thought that I would feel pressure when I read this novel, but turns out it was such a good read I read this novel like a week before my final exam I know I m a bad example DON T DO THIS But anyway, Shelina Zahra manages to deliver serious issues in humorous way I don t remember the story in great detail now But it is about a Muslim girl, age 23 I think who lives in UK , in search for her soulmate Or rather it was her family who s been egging her to look for one Basically, this is what the novel is about But trust me, the story is actually much complex than what I just said.It talks about the culture of Muslim immigrants, where majority of them experience the clash of civilization between the East and the West, the shift of culture itself I understand that the Muslim in the West has somehow mold their own culture throughout generations Which means there are mixtures of East and West Which is very interesting Not only that, it also address the treatment of the non Muslims pre and post 9 11 If you think this book is preachyI have to say, that it is not preachy at all It surely is a thought provoking read I mean, I read this for my literature class How can it not be thought provoking I need to find some time and reread this For sure For my 20th Century Literature lecturer, I know you don t have a GR account But I want to say thank you for introducing me to this book You re one of my fav lecturers D


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    It was fun to read this Muslim woman s memoir and marvel about the similarities between her dating experiences and the courtship system in my culture The parallels were striking, even in small ways The involvement of the entire family, the priorities, the traditional values, the power of the aunties middle aged women who may or may not be relatives and may or may not be nice people who serve as the gatekeepers between the seeking woman and possible guys and must be hud at all costs, and .Having said that, a number of flaws interfered with my enjoyment I wasn t crazy about the writing, which I often found irritatingly sophomoric and distracting Focus was lacking as somewhat repetitive ill fated blind date woe is me memoir sections alternated with didactic and sometimes preachy Islam for dummies sections I suppose both aspects of the book were arguably necessary, but I would have preferred a seamless transition between the two and better editing.Finally, though reading about the author s reaction to 9 11 as a Muslim living in London was certainly enlightening, I found much of what she said apologetic and one dimensional as she denied any pro violent sentiments in the Koran or in Islam I m sure I m not the most objective person on this topic, but I found some of what she said difficult to swallow Still, a fast and enlightening read I d be curious to hear a shidduch dater s reaction to the book.


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